Why Here And Why Not There?

I encountered a dictionary called “The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows” by John Koenig who also gave a TED Talk on his originally invented dictionary which has definitions of feelings that we are not able to describe.

One of the words grabbed my attention.


n. the frustration of being stuck in just one body, that inhabits only one place at a time.

Yes! The frustration of why here and why not there. When you are standing where you are now, sometimes you feel an urge to feel the feeling of standing at somewhere else. The what if’s.

You are here.


You wonder how it would feel to stand on the busy streets of New York

or in the middle of the painted alike streets of Venice where the small details speak in poems to you

or beside someone

or back to the history where everything seemed to look in black and white.

At those times, do not compare the place you are at now to the place where you want to be at. It gives you nothing but frustrations.

Instead, feel connected to the place where you want to be at. Extend your imaginations and stretch it until it reaches that point.

The connection gives you a motivation to be at that point where you want to be at whereas the comparison of here vs there makes you frustrated.

When I look for the connections, it gives me the same feeling of standing under the shimmering rain while sticking my hands out with closed eyes, feeling the soft raindrops falling on my face. It feels calm yet alive to feel connected to something.

When we feel connected to the world. To the places, to the written words, to the busy and the empty streets, to the sound of a wood cracking in the fire somewhere else in the world, that is how it feels to feel alive which charges us more.

To feel alive (which is important) is simply being connected to anything in the past, present, or in the future. Anything we could grasp for which puts you in the direction of where you want to be at.

Coding my way to life

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